The article opens: "These days, I am rarely surprised when, after a lecture or book signing, someone will try to talk to me about their addiction to porn and ask where he or she can get help.
As an author and feminist social commentator, I often discuss my work at events and meet a wide spectrum of people who talk to me about sex, relationships and, more increasingly, the impact of pornography on their lives.
There is no stereotype of what this person will look like...."
I too find that many people want to talk to me about their porn habits and how it is deeply concerning to them and destroying all hopes of having a 'normal' relationship. They are often feeling lost and confused. Some say they have never known good sex and some don't even believe that sex (as we know it) has the potential of fulfilling them anyway.
Wolfe states: "Recently, a major British study, the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles, which questioned more than 15,000 people aged 16 to 74, showed couples are having about 20 per cent less sex per month than they did just ten years ago."
I read another article recently which reported that young Japanese people are being turned off sex to such an extent that they've stopped having sex altogether.
These issues are the result of the repression of sexual energy and urges - the devastating effects are growing year by year. We are at the stage where we can no longer ignore the total dysfunction of society and culture in general.
We need to understand that these issues cannot be given a quick fix by banning pornography or even limiting it's availability - though those measures may be helpful in bringing about some relief, they are not a long term solution to this problem.
Why not? Because the problem is lack of fulfilment, lack of pleasure and the acute anxiety of simply being alive. We are at war with life itself and until we reverse that compulsion we are not going to change our experience of life.
It is no good to look to see what is normal anymore and to judge our standards against that - normal is not natural, and frankly, I don't believe that we know what natural really looks and feels like as it has been missing for so long.
Delving into the life works of Wilhelm Reich I have recently had validation of what I intuitively knew to be accurate - that suppression of sexuality and the inability to allow our sexual gratification through natural orgiastic expression has created the complete opposite of what we are capable of naturally.
This suppression, this complete and utter rejection and control of our nature has successfully created a society that has reversed the meaning of life. We are at a loss for answers because we do not even know what it is that we've lost, so we're searching around for what we think it is we need, or want.
Nature is simple, naturally. I believe humans are too: it’s when we stop, or worse, reverse what is natural that complications and suffering ensue. The answers lay in our body and mind – we hold the natural function of life within us and we must seek that out if we are to bring about a correction that leads us to a fulfilling life.
Nature itself cannot be corrupted – it is always pure in its being. Seek connection with Nature to help reverse that which is unnatural. Become at one with the Earth if you wish to know the truth of who you are, and claim it.
Tantra itself is not a cure - but it can be the start of a wave of change.